There is no Right or Wrong Decision: Pick One and Run

What color seats should I get, gray or black? 

Should I start with a dance workout, aim for 1,000 steps, or just hit the gym and lift weights? 

Now that I have my bachelor’s degree, should I find a job or try to build something of my own?

Big or small, these decisions used to eat me alive. I’d overthink every option, replaying what ifs in my head on a loop.

Then one day, in the middle of my usual mental tug-of-war, my partner told me: “Why don't you pick one thing, fully commit to it, and stop wondering about the other option.”

It made me pause for a while.

I looked at how he lived, one decision at a time, no second-guessing. If it didn’t work out, he’d adjust, but he never tortured himself wondering if he should’ve picked differently.

I decided to try it. For example, when I graduated, I chose not to look for formal employment. I wanted to build something of my own, so I committed (still committing, haha). No what if I had searched for jobs haunting me. Well, there were at first, but I adjusted as time went by.

Now, the process of not obsessing over decisions wasn’t magic overnight. It took effort to let go of the habit. But over time, I noticed something, the anxiety faded. The next decisions got easier. I wasn’t stuck in endless loops anymore. I just picked and moved.

I learned that whether a decision turns out “good” or “bad” depends less on the choice itself and more on how fully you accept it and follow through.

So if you’re torn: Gray or black seats? 

Pick one and own it. 

Dance workout or weights? 

Pick one and show up. 

Start your own thing or take the job?

Have kids or not?

Pick one and stand by it.

Commit, accept, and stop feeding the what ifs. Life’s simpler that way and honestly, a lot lighter too.

Big or small, life moves when you do. What matters most isn’t the path, it’s the way you walk it.

See you on the next one. Bye! 

If you're still caught in the loop, I’ve broken down the root causes of indecision in this earlier post  things like fear of failure, analysis paralysis, and lack of confidence. It might help you see where your hesitation is really coming from.